Hear What Emma Watson Has to Say About Dating as a Feminist
Many of the tropes of the dating world are often seen as old-fashioned (and therefore, anti-feminist): think letting him get the check or waiting for him to call you. But Emma Watson tackled the topic of dating-while-feminist in her Facebook Q&A on International Women's Day, and her thoughts are worth applying to our own relationships—no matter what the dating status.
When asked if Emma would still let a man pay for her dinner, she said: “I actually took a man out for dinner recently. I chose the restaurant and I offered to pay, and it was really awkward and uncomfortable, but the cool thing about it was we were both willing to have the conversation about why it was awkward.” Her suggestion for diffusing that tension? “[Say] ‘I chose the restaurant this time because it’s my favorite—you can choose and pay next time.’ Or you can split it, or whatever! Whatever makes you both comfortable.”
Finding a balance that works for both people was a theme for Emma. Chivalry, she argued, can just be a synonym for politeness. “[It becomes] a problem when people expect things to be a certain way to follow a certain status quo.” When she was asked (by a guy) how she’d feel about a man opening the door for her, she said: “I love having the door open for me…But isn’t that just politeness? Would you mind if I held the door open for you? I’m polite and you’re polite and we’re making the world a better place with this small, kind polite gesture.”
Politeness, respect and strong lines of communication sounds like a great formula for a successful relationship to us. “We’re never, ever, ever going to be able to fly as high unless we’re both in support of each other,” said Emma. Amen to that.