Should Women Be Editing Out These Phrases While Speaking?
Are there words women should omit in conversation? Some critics argue yes, there are.
From qualifiers that undermine your own message to the classic, "I'm sorry."
"As entrepreneurial women, we run businesses and lead teams — why aren't we writing with the confidence of their positions?" writes Tami Reiss, co-creator of a Google Chrome extension that deletes qualifiers in emails.
Here's a cheat sheet with the suggested meanings of these common phrases, although every woman has the right to choose her own words.
1. 'I feel like'
In a recent New York Times op-ed one student argues that when you use this phrase it gives you an out, meaning rather than stating a fact your point is watered down to simply offering an opinion.
2. 'I'm no expert'
Leadership coach Tara Mohr says this phrase undercuts your authority. "I'm no expert in this, but…" or "I know you all have been researching this for a long time, but…" undermines your position before you've even stated your opinion, she writes in Goop.
3. 'I think'
If you think you use this phrase too much there’s now an app to delete it from all of your emails. The Just Not Sorry Google Chrome plug-in alerts users to the qualifiers in their messages from "I think" to "I'm sorry." Don't worry it's not too late.
How many times have you said, "I just wanted to check in on …" or "Just wondering if you'd decided between …"? Well Google executive Ellen Petry Leanse argues this single word puts your conversation partner in the parent position, and places you in the position of a child asking for permission.
The infamous "sorry" has been used time and time again often by women and many think it's unnecessary, showing a point of weakness. Writer Sloane Crosley argues the sorrys of women are taking up time that could be spent "relaying accurate impressions of what we want."
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