Telling the Truth About Ourselves | Have a Little Faith
Pastor Nadia Bolz-Weber takes on the cult of perfectionism. Real is what matters
NADIA BOLZ-WEBER: As someone who stumbles through faith and life in general and who has never managed to feel spiritual for any extended period of time, who is snarky and selfish and sometimes downright petty, the truth is I only really feel connected to other people who are also like that. I mean, it feels good to be inspired by other people, to admire their accomplishments and be dazzled by their virtues.
But what I really want is to not feel so alone. And while I might feel inspired by someone who is good. I only feel less alone when someone shares their failures with me, the things they struggle with, the parts of themselves that are more jagged than smooth. And I guess I've always suspected that so much of religion and spirituality, so much of what is offered is a way to sand down the edges of ourselves. Like it's all a program for making ourselves into something less janky and more pure, as if with enough yoga or bible study or organic foods we can spiritually improve ourselves into purity of heart and mind.
And if you find that it doesn't work for you, if you find that all the new age meditation doesn't do the trick and you still experience road rage or maybe just a tiny bit of hatred toward your boss, and you still binge watch too much Netflix and can't seem to manifest everything in your life that you should, just know that you are totally not alone. You don't have to fake anything. It just so happens that the jagged edges of our humanity are what actually connects us to one another those. Wounds and failures and misconceptions and mistakes, those are the things that actually create enough texture on us that god and our fellow human beings have something to grab onto.